I've been tying the online dating scene and viewing accounts have been a bit interesting and my experiences are encouraging me to write this. Here's my feedback onto common mistakes that profiles make and my advice to those out there making accounts.
1. Don't post photos of you with your shirt off unless you're trying to say:
a) Your cocky and self conceded
b) You're on here just to find a girl to sleep with you. Oh in that case your page now reads that you're looking for a trashy girl and you yourself is trashy.
c) Don't I look sexy? um, perhaps, but come on - save some mystery.
2. Don't place large group photos of you with your friends or family members. Reasons why:
a) When your in a large group of people, we as the first time viewers of ever seeing who you are - don't know which person you are within the group. We're literally searching for Waldo and it's not a fun game in this case.
b) Creepy posting family photos. You're on this site, not them, and therefore you shouldn't be displaying that much detail out for the public criminals to be able to see in helping them track you down.
c) We're on this site to view YOU, not how many friends or people you know.
3. Don't place photos of you with females. Reasons why:
a) Females get jealous easily and the worst thing you want to do is make her go "next!" Just because you're photo has you with your arm around an attractive female.
b) It makes a girl wonder, "who is she?" It doesn't matter that it's your friend, family member, or sister. To the viewer its another girl. Don't have her wondering and just don't place them.
c) You come off as cocky once again, as if saying, "Look at this lovely lady on my side." Yeah get outta here! you're on here to find a girl, not pose as if you have many options.
4. Don't place photos of you doing activities where it doesn't show you face well such as sky diving, wearing a halloween costume, your back side mountain climbing, etc. This is why:
Hello, we can't see you! ladies viewing your page want to see what you look like. You're page below the photos is where you write what you're good at, what your hobbies consists of, and what you do on your free time. So place photos where it clearly shows your face so that the viewer knows what you look like.
5. Don't place any photos of things you own, scenery photos you've taken, or any thing else other then yourself. This is why:
It's a waste of the viewers time. Once again she's on this dating site to find a mate. Not see a photo that you took of the sky. If she wanted to see art work she will use a different site for that. If she wants to see what you drive, wait and show her on the first date. Lastly, to be repeated, ONLY posts photos of yourself and nothing more. the only time an exception can take place with this is if you have a pet or kid. Then place a photo of them, but include yourself in the photo.
6. Place a photo of you and a baby is adorable to females. However DON'T place photos of yourself with a child unless indicating if the child is yours or not. This is why:
a) If a girl sees a photo of you holding a baby without any label, she immediately assumes the child is yours and next ask herself if she can handle that kind of responsibility and commitment.
b) Some females who don't want children will completely skip your page and move on to the next profile. Could be a horrible mistake on her part, so don't help her make it!
7. Don't place old photos. This is why:
a) She will be confused when you're collection of photos show a range of different looks or even hair styles. questioning, "how does he look now?"
b) She will some day meet you and be disappointed in person.
8. By all means show who you are in you're profile pictures. Place up photos showing how you normally dress, not just you at a tux. Show you smiling, not smiling, and having a laugh. However try to take or post ONLY flattering photos of yourself. Do NOT post:
a) Photos of you flipping off the camera. It's as if you're saying "fuck you" and that's no way to gain a girl. I've never heard a girl say, "I loved how sexy he is in this photo of him flipping off the camera."
b) Making a goofy face. Those are fun and cute for people who already know you. Saves those faces for her to see as you to get to know each other. Not acceptable for a profile pic, it make scare her away.
c) Photo of you drinking, smoking, or acting out. She may judge you as being not her type, an alcoholic , corrupted, or too excessive. it just gives off a bad image. It's okay you do these things, but once again they have sections of you're profile for you to write it as to if you do these things. Fill in those spots honestly, but don't posts photos showing it.
9. In your actual profile, you should write in the categories given to you. If you leave these areas out a female may just say, "skip!" Because there is nothing to draw her in. Write:
a) Some about yourself, maybe a paragraph for each section, but no more, because that's too excessive and a girl doesn't want to know you're whole biography. I mean what else are you two going to talk about?
b) Show your personality within your text. For example next to your favorite movie mention how you've seen it a thousand times, but you can still crack up as if it where the first time watching it.
c) Always be honest. Never write something that's untrue, because after a while of dating the lie will eventually unfold and you don't want a lie caused before even meeting her.
10. When a girl "likes" you, you should view her page in return. If you "like" her back then you should be the first to write her a message. Don't wait for her to write you, because chances are she won't. A girl likes a guy who takes control and makes the first move.
11. When writing to a girl you shouldn't just say "Hi." That's boring. Think to yourself, she may have others writing to her and how is your message going to catch her attention? Ask her a question about herself. Actually read her profile and ask questions regarding what she wrote or specify how you think it's neat that she has that kind job, hobby, or pet. Girls enjoy the fact that you're engaging in her interests and are proving that you read her page.
12. When messaging a girl for about two weeks or more and you've decided that you still like her you should:
a) Take things the next step and ask if she would be comfortable switching phone numbers.
b) Once getting her number you can chat with her via text then phone calls so that things become more personal.
c) After talking via phone you should ask her out. No girl wants to just talk, text, and message on another forever. Seal the deal and make an effort to meet to see if things between you two "spark."
